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What I struggle with most in my business
When I am asked why I started my online business, I usually tell people that I do it so I can eventually quit my job. My main motivation, besides connecting with and helping other women, is the ability to dictate my own schedule so that I can have more time with my family.
But building a business while working a full time job is hard to manage, especially when you have a family to take care of. Managing all those balls in the air without losing either your family or your business is an incredible task.
I have two big fears: One is that if I don’t work hard enough, my business will fail and I will never be able to leave my job and have the freedom to spend more time with my family. The other is that I will work so hard that I will not have a family left to spend that freedom with when I get there.
The latter almost came true a few weeks ago during our family vacation.
As many of you know, I spent about six weeks this summer on a redesign of my website. Then (because I’m crazy) I thought it would be a good idea to do seven giveaway posts in seven days immediately following the launch and preceding a two-week vacation. To top it off, I also had an article deadline due during the first week of said vacation.
I worked myself to the bone the first few weeks of August. I worked late every night and pulled an all-nighter the eve of the launch, which ended with me getting physically sick, complete with fever, chills and body aches. My body had had enough!
But I still had those seven posts to write, seven emails to send, and that article deadline. A smarter person would have told her audience that the seven days of giveaways would have to be postponed. In retrospect I’m sure you guys would have understood.
But what did I do?
I did them anyway. I stayed up late every night when I should have been resting and the next week I worked into the first five days of our vacation. On the last of those five nights, as I was fighting to stay awake to complete my deadline, my husband finally snapped. He’d had enough!
I really can’t blame him. He had been so patient up to then and I had totally taken advantage of it. I had promised him that I would not work on vacation and yet here we were five days in and I was staying up late to work again.
I’m happy now to say that my husband and I ended up working it out, but I learned a really important lesson this summer: it’s not ok to become so obsessed with your business that you sacrifice your family for it.
Building a business as a solopreneur is a delicate balance, especially if you’ve got a day job and a family to boot. Opportunities may be lost, but boundaries must be drawn. After that fateful night with my husband, I shut my computer off and didn’t turn it back on for five full days. I’m pretty sure I went through withdrawals at first but after a day or two it became liberating. It felt so good to unplug!
And guess what? The world didn’t end and neither did my business.
Since then, I’ve been working on drawing boundaries so I don’t burn out, get sick again or lose my family. It’s really hard not to work all the time, but I have to find that balance: my family and everything that I love depends on it.
What do YOU struggle with the most in your business? I’d love to hear your stories, share with me in the comments below!
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